To be a good mom, there are so many expectations of what we “should” be doing. I think an area of the working mom life that isn’t spoke enough about is the fact that sometimes… just sometimes… you look forward to dropping them off at daycare.

And It’s hard to admit that.

At first it was completely heartbreaking. Anxiety ridden, sickening painfully hard heartbreaking. You contemplate (and never stop) if you’re doing the right thing. There are so many tears (probably more from mom then them 😉).

But it gets easier and easier.

Then you have a Teagan that literally skips down the hall for for her social part of the week.

And the classic 3rd child who could give a “F” who is watching her as long as she has some attention!

But there are things that my kids receive at daycare that I can’t give them. I love our center for that. I can be a good mom when I am not with them 100% of the time.

Every Baby & Every Mom is Different

With Bella, I didn’t work out of the home and I LOVED IT. I was able to manage what I wanted to do, I was in a great community who supported me bringing her everywhere I went, she was passed around like a doll at all the social gatherings, it was great! I found a Mom’s Group (MOPS) after a few months to get a little bit of alone time with adults, I had a reliable sitter for when I needed to get personal things done…. it was a great balance! I absolutely loved it.

Right now though… I love my balance of working mom life. There is no right way to do this whole mom thing.

Personally, I love dropping them off a few days a week and then having a break to challenge myself mentally. To talk to adults about strategizing, being creative, email marketing, meal plans, supporting other women, and more!

I love having the privilege of being able to afford quality care for all three of my kids (even if part time), and being able to work on doing something I am truly passionate about.

Every Baby & Every Mom Are the Same

We all love our babies.

No doubt there.

But every mom needs a mental break.

Every mom needs help. Moms are not supposed to do it all!

To Be a Good Mom…

To be a good mom is not synonymous with being a good housekeeper.

To be a good mom is not synonymous with being a good tutor.

To be a good mom is not synonymous with being a good cook.

But every mom knows how to love their children. YOU are a good mom. But I bet that you are not getting help and mental breaks that you need. We’re all the same. There is not enough hours in the day to do everything a “good” mom “should” do. I’m encouraging you to take more time being the good mom you are, and let someone jump in and help in the areas that aren’t your strength, or areas that limit you from being the good mom you are.

Get someone to come help clean.

Get a mommy-helper for a few hours.

Let instacart do your shopping.

Buy a meal-delivery kit.

Go through the drive thru.

Put your kids in daycare.

Whatever YOU need mama, I hope you’ll do it.  I think we all need a little break and we need some help sometimes. I know I do.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk.